Every one of us experiences grief.

The Bible said that "Jesus began to weep" when he learned of the death of his friend Lazarus. Grief is a strong and mercurial emotion. It comes when we least expect it. A song, a thought, an odor can trigger it. And then it can pass for a while.

Sometimes it has the power of a big wave taking us under and we feel like we will drown, and then we float to the top until the next wave. When thinking of the person we lost, we go from laughing to crying in seconds and almost question our mental well being. And all of this is grief.
 
She lost two members of her family including her husband in a very short time. The first wave of grief was shock. She struggled with the disbelief that her husband was gone. "I talked to him yesterday. It can't be!" The second waves of gief were intense anger. She was angry with the caregivers, the doctors, family friends, and God.  It all seemed so unfair.

Over months the anger became softer and more focused. Out of her anger she knew there was something she had to do. She felt better when this decision was made.

More recently the third stage of grief is settling in. She could think of him. She could think of things they did together and, as she put it, "sweet tears" would come. Soft tears, healing tears. Tears of precious memories and of a new tomorrow.